No matter whether you are seeking advice about stress, or offering it to someone in need, we must not let stressful situations ruin lives!
There are many reasons why people suffer from stress. Surprisingly, some suffer from stress but are not even aware that they are doing so!
We give you advice on how to find the cause or causes of your stress, and more importantly – how to deal with stressors.
For some, dealing with stress is a relatively simple matter, providing you really want to. For others, stress can be so severe that it might need specialist medical attention. If the latter is the case, then don’t rule out forms of alternative medical advice and treatment.
Stress has always been part of our lives. But, it is mainly our understanding of the causes and effects of stress that have bought it to the forefront in today’s hectic lifestyles.
What Causes Stress?
Frustration, deadlines at work, interpersonal competition at work, and simply the problems of trying to keep up with this fast changing world are enough to cause stress problems.
That said, some types of stress can also be a good thing! It can help you to perform, or even out-perform, in certain situations. Athletes use it to great advantage to help them through barriers that will put them on top. It can also help you in everyday life. However, if it is part of life’s routine, then something somewhere will suffer in body, in mind, or in both.
In spite of the name of this website, we are not here to give you advice about stress. We are not medical practitioners, but scientific researchers. This website is to give you the information that you need to use stress to your advantage. Where we give advice on stress – we will intimate that it is so.
We all need to minimise and manage the stress in our lives. Nothing will compensate you if you don’t! You are important. Your health is important. And above all, your happiness or contentment is important to your personal well-being.
Admitting to Stress (acceptance)
There are three important factors in treating stress:
- Discovering stress
- Admitting you are stressed and isolating it
- Accepting a stressful situation
Harmful stress comes from a multitude of causes and is often self perpetuating. In fact, stress itself, causes more stress!
We base this advice about stress on medical facts, and of course some good old common sense. Getting the right advice is not always easy. But, getting the wrong advice can cause more harm than good.
In most cases, we can beat stress. It can nearly always be controlled, or even turned to your own advantage.
You might want to avoid the route of stress-busting treatments from the doctor. Wait until you have tried other methods of control outside of medication. Throughout these pages, we will help you identify if you are in fact suffering from simple or chronic stress, and if so, advise you what to do about it in the first instance.
The Way Forward
First of all, determine whether you are stressed or suffering any form of stress. You can take a stress test to find out. The results may surprise you!
Secondly, sort out what you can actually do to alleviate the causes of your stress. Like all illnesses, yes suffering from stress is an illness, prevention is always better than cure.
Thirdly, embark on a change of lifestyle or whatever needs doing to combat the causes you have identified. Yes you can! If you do not, your overall health will suffer as result of doing nothing about stressful issues.
How to Avoid Stress and Stressful Situations
Fact: Problems cause stress! So, we need to deal with the actual problem, or the stressor, to be able to avoid certain kinds of stress!
We are not focusing on how to deal with stress that you are already suffering with. Instead, we take the view that prevention is far, far, better than cure. Thus, we are advising about avoiding the things in life that cause an accumulation of stress as part of living in the modern world.
Avoiding stress is a technique that you can practice on many everyday potential stress situations. The first thing part is recognising the stress-inducing problem that you want to divert or avoid. Once you have done that, then there are other steps to take to avoid a given stressful situation.
Stress: A Call for Help
Having a problem in itself, is NOT necessarily a stressor. The way you deal with a problem determines whether or not it will add to your stress levels.
All problems have the potential to cause a build up of stresses. In fact, it usually requires a certain amount of stress to deal with them. You might say it is a good example of the body and the brain in action.
But, not tackling a problem means it will always remain as a problem. Life is full of problems and life is not fair. Even so, failing to deal with a problem can result in a build up of stress. You must try to find ways of avoiding these situations.
Note: Prolonged stress, and chronic stress (which you must avoid) can at least cause you ill health – or at worse it can actually kill you.
Coping with Stress
It would be foolish to think that all stresses can be avoided. Stress is part of our lives – unless you are a very unusual person! The most important thing is to ensure you manage stressful build ups. Minor stresses can often accumulate unless you take avoiding or remedial actions about the problem that causes it.
Take steps to prepare your body and mind to deal with the normal run of the mill stress related problems. A fit body, and sound mind, will go a long way to avoid stressing over minor issues. If you feel well in yourself, and vibrant even, then many problems simply become one of those little things that we automatically deal with on a daily basis.
We highlight some of the stress inducing problems that can be avoided in our normal lives. You can also apply the same techniques to a number of problems. You can actually have a coping strategy to avoid stress! In simple terms, there are ways to reduce or avoid stress.
Some of the problems that can cause a build-up of stress include:
- Relationships and Friendships
- Financial Aspects
- Weight Gain – or Loss
- Loneliness (isolation)
Most of these general causes are avoidable, or we can minimize them by taking action. Problems rarely solve themselves so you need to deal with them.
Doing nothing is not an option! Leaving a problem to fester can worry you and lead to stress. The outcome often leads to even more stress so it is best that kind of situation whenever possible.